I mean with your texts. Do you always put these disclaimers in your texts with your friends?
I do not want to upset you. You seem happy at the moment so I will refrain from saying what is going on, as you are a father and would likely be upset by it.
That part. The kind of preamble or disclaimer can make people wary of whatever you're about to say. It's too formal and unnecessary. If you're talking to a friend, they already know this. It's like saying 'I'm about to hit you and it'll hurt. However, because I'm warning you, you can't be mad.' Try and take that out of your language. I bet you'll see your friends relax.
Okay about the brother and sibling stuff.
You're very easy to offend, Era. Remember the example I used about having a wound and not wanting people anywhere near it? It hurts and it's natural to want to be cautious of going anywhere near it.
Part of your love for your sibling, is respecting and being kind to the people they love. This is a lesson I'm actually currently working on myself. It sucks. It's annoying. They may say things that rub you the wrong way. Deal with it. It's the price of having family but it's worth it. Repeat after me, Era. It's worth it. Please trust me on that.
So as much as it kills you. Suck it up and go apologize to her and don't put your sibling in the middle. It's not fair to them and if you care about them, it'll be worth it.
[And dear god was it a tough lesson! It sucks and he was trying. He knew he was being such a hypocrite, but it was the best advice even if he was struggling to do it. He hoped whoever this brother and significant other were that they didn't make him regret this.]
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I mean with your texts. Do you always put these disclaimers in your texts with your friends?
That part. The kind of preamble or disclaimer can make people wary of whatever you're about to say. It's too formal and unnecessary. If you're talking to a friend, they already know this. It's like saying 'I'm about to hit you and it'll hurt. However, because I'm warning you, you can't be mad.' Try and take that out of your language. I bet you'll see your friends relax.
Okay about the brother and sibling stuff.
You're very easy to offend, Era. Remember the example I used about having a wound and not wanting people anywhere near it? It hurts and it's natural to want to be cautious of going anywhere near it.
Part of your love for your sibling, is respecting and being kind to the people they love. This is a lesson I'm actually currently working on myself. It sucks. It's annoying. They may say things that rub you the wrong way. Deal with it. It's the price of having family but it's worth it. Repeat after me, Era. It's worth it. Please trust me on that.
So as much as it kills you. Suck it up and go apologize to her and don't put your sibling in the middle. It's not fair to them and if you care about them, it'll be worth it.
[And dear god was it a tough lesson! It sucks and he was trying. He knew he was being such a hypocrite, but it was the best advice even if he was struggling to do it. He hoped whoever this brother and significant other were that they didn't make him regret this.]