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[runs_on_batteries]

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[runs_on_batteries]

Right now, it would appear you are very good at hurting others. To say that's all you're good for isn't true. You have a lot of potential. For instance, you seem to love science and might do something positive with that.

What you just wrote to me though, sounds like you've found someone to channel your anger at and vilified them. Tell me based on what you just said, where are you taking ownership for your actions because I don't see it.

Help me understand this time you had a cordial, impersonal relationship. The one before Noctis found out about you not trusting her. How did that go? What happened to make him find out about the lack of trust?

[astralera]

If it sounds a though I am vilifying her that is not my intent. The intent was to explain why there is an inherent incompatibility between us. I am well aware that if there is a 'villain' here it is me, not her.

You do not see it because you have not been here for the year we had co-existed, where I had made sure to include her in gatherings I hosted, made her feel welcome to attend 'family' gatherings even prior to her more recent relationship, helped Noctis choose clothes for her in her favourite colours, even going so far as to have proper women's necessities made to her measurements as well as hand sewing her a dress she would enjoy. One of the few things I knew about her was that she enjoyed cooking, so I reached out for her assistance in cooking for my partner when I was incapable.

All of these things I did in an attempt to foster a possible friendship, but it was always imbalanced and uncomfortable. I then shifted to interacting only at gatherings where I would be polite and direct conversations to more scholarly subjects and away from personal ones. I would still offer the occassional piece of personal information when asked, and turn the questions back to her.

And I already told you what happened. It was my wedding. She told him what I told her. He contacted me and asked what happened. I told him. He told me all about how wonderful she is and to be patient with her and et cetera.

I am happy he is happy. I do not trust her, but he does. That is his choice.

I spent a long time putting in effort, trying to be patient, opening myself up despite my fears. In over a year of interactions she has always remained the same with me; unchanged. So all I see is a person trying very hard to play a part she never studied for, no matter how she may be to others.

If she is willing to have a proper conversation that is equal rather than one-sided, I am willing to listen.

If she would like to forge a friendship, so long as she does not assume that she has the same privileges from the start that my close friends have, I am not opposed.

I told him as much, because he is familiar with the way I speak and could relay the concept to her in a way to minimize her hurt feelings if he so chose.

So I am saying that I tried. Even before she moved on to Noctis, I put in the effort. I have not been given the same courtesy. I should not be the only one responsible for making it work, and should not be made to feel bad for it — not that that was his intent.

But it's irrelevant now, because I have removed myself from the situation.

I think I will go buy another house now. My comrade whose children I killed deserves somewhere comfortable to mourn them.

[runs_on_batteries]

So you criticize me for making assumptions and then get snippy when I ask you to clarify something? You're exhausting to talk to.

Alright, you win. She's a dumpster fire and you're perfect. You're clearly the sane one. Leave that poor couple alone and I'll be happy. I don't even want to know what that last reference was about as I'm completely out of patience with you today.

Peace out.